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Male and female were created equally in the image of God. They are the same in value, dignity and responsibility before God, and are equally accountable to exercise caring rule over creation. Within the basic unity of the human race, God has established the sex difference of male and female, which is good. We must neither deny the sex difference (the tendency of liberal feminists) nor make more of it than the Bible does (the tendency of both radical feminists and some traditionalists). Men and women need and complement each other and are called to live in unity and peace in all areas of life and work. Whether single or married, Scripture teaches that it is not good for man or woman to be alone. Neither the division of labour nor leadership responsibilities (e.g. those normally associated with the 'traditional view' of marriage) should be exploitive when established by mutual consent and practised in a wise and godly manner. Marriage is a creational norm for the whole human race. It is a gift of God in which a man and a woman can experience a profound unity in diversity as a reflection of the glory of Christ's union with the Church. For this reason, although divorce is sometimes permissible, it is always a tragic falling short of God's intention. Marriage is a lifelong, covenantal relationship of mutual submission where the two become one, sharing a joint life before God. Within this, the wife is to submit to the husband and the husband is to follow Christ's example of loving, self-sacrificing headship towards the goal of the wife's growth towards glory or "radiance". Sex is a good and pleasurable gift from God. It gives physical expression to the union of a husband and wife, and brings forth the gift of children. Faithful, monogamous, heterosexual marriage is the only legitimate context for sexual intercourse. Human fulfillment whether in marriage or in singleness is not chiefly related to sexual fulfilment, rather, to a proper relationship with God and conformity to His word. While men and women do need and complement one another, sexual experience should never be considered central to human experience. Therefore singleness should not be viewed negatively, whether by choice (as with celibacy) or by default (when those who desire marriage remain unmarried). Those unmarried have particular struggles and deserve the sensitive support of the Church; as do those who are married, who also have their own particular struggles. In both cases human fulfillment arises from 'true spirituality', not from the presence or absence of sexual experience. Single men and women have a unique vocational freedom to serve Christ unhindered by responsibilities to husband, wife or children – and Scripture makes it clear that for some, celibacy is a calling and gift of the Holy Spirit. l We resist any ideology that would undermine the relationship between male and female that God established at creation and redeemed by the work of Christ which results in: Pitting the sexes against each other in class antagonism or separatist social structures. Maintaining that the sexes are identical or that one sex has superiority or dominion over the other. Undermining heterosexual marriage and family as if repressive institutions. Advocating sexual activity outside marriage whether homosexual or heterosexual. Devaluing sexual experience as if it were not spiritual.